got this post from my fren's blog.. think it's quite useful so i post it here for all to read...

"Let your partner know exactly when something upsets you. I've found that many people tend to not speak up when something bothers them, thinking that it is trivial to mention it. Unfortunately, what happens is after repeated times of not speaking up, some small occurrence happens and it ends up being the straw that broke the camel's back. The other partner, more often than not, has no clue what they are upset about and therefore thinks they are over-reacting.

If you find yourself in this situation, deal with each thing as it happens. Don't let things build up until you explode."anyway her title for the post is "8 Ways To Handle An Argument by Jennifer Good"

1. Give your partner enough space to voice his or her concerns.

2. Make an extra effort to really understand what you partner is trying to say.

3. Don't say something you'll regret later.

4. Don't bring in past woes.

5. Learn to compromise.

6. Realize that no matter what you say, you both may not agree on the issue at hand.

7. Make a commitment to talk about the situation until it is handled.

8. Make your relationship with your partner your first concern when you are in the middle of a disagreement.

yup agree totally. just one more point to add. In a r/s pls do not compare(i realised so many of us love to compare). who and who's bf/gf so sweet did this and that for her/him why cant u be like them. who and who is so romantic, brought who and who to where where where why u so unromantic de? my ex used to give me so much freedom, let me do this this this, why u demand so much? if u realli buai tahan wan to compare then compare how the moon is rounder here in singapore than else where. how the grass here is greener. how a fine country this is.dun bother comparing how ur current partner is better than the last also lah. what for? nxt time if ever break up and get into new r/s does it mean that the new partner will be better than this? endless things u can compare.like what i always say dun think so much will age very fast de.